Burada \u00f6nemli bir noktay\u0131 hat\u0131rlamak gerekir: Oru\u00e7 sadece a\u00e7 kalmak de\u011fildir. As\u0131l amac\u0131 insan\u0131 ar\u0131nd\u0131rmak, nefsini terbiye etmek, sabr\u0131 ve \u015f\u00fckr\u00fc \u00f6\u011fretmektir. A\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ne demek oldu\u011funu bedende hissettirmek; yoksulu anlamay\u0131, nimetin k\u0131ymetini bilmeyi ve fazlal\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fark etmeyi sa\u011flamakt\u0131r. Yani oru\u00e7, mideyi bo\u015f b\u0131rak\u0131rken kalbi doldurmay\u0131 hedefler. Ancak biz \u00e7o\u011fu zaman meseleyi sadece \u201ca\u00e7 kalmak\u201d \u00fczerinden okuruz.<\/p>\n
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G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131za bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u015funu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz: \u00c7o\u011fu zaman karn\u0131m\u0131z ac\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in de\u011fil, i\u00e7imiz darald\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in yeriz. Can\u0131m\u0131z s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutfa\u011fa gideriz, yaln\u0131z hissetti\u011fimizde dolab\u0131 a\u00e7ar\u0131z, anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda tatl\u0131ya sar\u0131l\u0131r\u0131z. Yorgun oldu\u011fumuzda kahveye de\u011fil, teselliye ihtiya\u00e7 duyar\u0131z ama bunu ay\u0131rt edemeyiz. Duygusal a\u00e7l\u0131k sessizdir ama yo\u011fundur. Mide kaz\u0131nmas\u0131 gibi de\u011fildir; daha \u00e7ok i\u00e7te bir bo\u015fluk gibi gelir. Bir eksiklik hissi\u2026 Bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc tamamlanamayan bir c\u00fcmle gibi.<\/p>\n
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Psikolojide \u201cduygusal yeme\u201d dedi\u011fimiz bir durum vard\u0131r. Bedenin ihtiyac\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde, sanki ihtiya\u00e7 varm\u0131\u015f gibi hissettiren bir d\u00fcrt\u00fc. Asl\u0131nda arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey bir dilim ekmek de\u011fil; bir c\u00fcmledir \u00e7o\u011fu zaman: \u201cAnl\u0131yorum seni.\u201d \u201cYan\u0131nday\u0131m.\u201d \u201cYetersiz de\u011filsin.\u201d Oru\u00e7 burada bir aynaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. G\u00fcn i\u00e7inde eliniz otomatik olarak mutfa\u011fa gitti\u011finde bir an durursunuz ve \u201cGer\u00e7ekten a\u00e7 m\u0131y\u0131m?\u201d diye sorars\u0131n\u0131z. Bazen fark edersiniz ki mideniz de\u011fil, kalbiniz bir \u015feye a\u00e7t\u0131r: G\u00f6r\u00fclmeye, duyulmaya, de\u011ferli hissetmeye\u2026<\/p>\n
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Sevgili okurlar, oru\u00e7 bir dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k testi de\u011fildir; bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130ftar saatini beklersiniz, yemek gelir ve ge\u00e7er. \u0130\u00e7teki eksiklik ge\u00e7miyorsa mesele mide de\u011fildir. Mide doyar; kalp doymuyorsa orada ba\u015fka bir ihtiya\u00e7 vard\u0131r. Kalbin a\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7bir sofra tek ba\u015f\u0131na doyuramaz. Oru\u00e7 bize \u015funu \u00f6\u011fretir: Ger\u00e7ek a\u00e7l\u0131k sab\u0131rla diner ama duygusal a\u00e7l\u0131k ertelendik\u00e7e b\u00fcy\u00fcr. Bu y\u00fczden baz\u0131 insanlar iftarda \u00e7ok yer ama h\u00e2l\u00e2 \u201cDoymad\u0131m\u201d der. O c\u00fcmle bazen y\u0131llard\u0131r biriken g\u00f6r\u00fclmeme hissinin c\u00fcmlesidir.<\/p>\n
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Orucun en derin taraf\u0131, bizi yoksunlukla de\u011fil fark\u0131ndal\u0131kla tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00fcn i\u00e7inde kendinize \u015fu soruyu sormay\u0131 deneyin: \u201c\u015eu an ger\u00e7ekten neye a\u00e7\u0131m?\u201d Bir lokmaya m\u0131, yoksa bir de\u011fere mi? Bir g\u00fcvene mi, bir \u015fefkate mi? \u00c7o\u011fu zaman a\u00e7l\u0131k sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey; g\u00f6r\u00fclme, anla\u015f\u0131lma ve sevilme ihtiyac\u0131d\u0131r. Oru\u00e7 a\u00e7 b\u0131rakmaz. A\u00e7 b\u0131rakan; ertelenmi\u015f duygular, konu\u015fulmam\u0131\u015f k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar ve bast\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ihtiya\u00e7lard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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Bu Ramazan sofralar\u0131m\u0131z kadar kalbimizi de doyurmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenebiliriz. Sadece midemizi de\u011fil, niyetimizi de temizleyebiliriz. Biraz daha yava\u015flayabilir, biraz daha hissedebilir, biraz daha kendimize d\u00fcr\u00fcst olabiliriz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131 en \u00e7ok yoran \u015fey a\u00e7l\u0131k de\u011fil, ad\u0131n\u0131 koyamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 eksikliktir.<\/p>\n
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Ve baz\u0131 a\u00e7l\u0131klar suyla de\u011fil, \u015fefkatle diner.<\/p>\n
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Ramazan geldi\u011finde en s\u0131k duydu\u011fum c\u00fcmlelerden biri \u015fu oluyor: \u201c\u00c7ok zorlan\u0131yorum, a\u00e7 kalam\u0131yorum.\u201d Oysa mesele \u00e7o\u011fu zaman a\u00e7 kalmak de\u011fil; mesele neye a\u00e7 oldu\u011fumuzu fark edememek. Oru\u00e7 bedeni a\u00e7 b\u0131rak\u0131r gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr ama asl\u0131nda bedene bir \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretir: Beklemeyi, ertelemeyi, sabretmeyi. Her istedi\u011fimiz \u015feye an\u0131nda ula\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, her d\u00fcrt\u00fcn\u00fcn pe\u015finden gitmek zorunda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":112353,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112351","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112351","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/12"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=112351"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112351\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":112352,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112351\/revisions\/112352"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/112353"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=112351"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=112351"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=112351"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}