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Kendimizi, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, birlikte ya\u015fama k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc ne zaman kaybettik ya da kaybetti\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr olduk? Oysa bir zamanlar birbirine omuz veren, bir ac\u0131 oldu\u011funda haberi kom\u015fudan \u00f6nce duyan aileler, bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun sevincini hep birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fcten topluluklar vard\u0131. \u0130nsanlar birbirini tan\u0131masa bile ayn\u0131 sofran\u0131n duas\u0131na ortak olabilecek kadar yak\u0131nd\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Bug\u00fcn ise \u00f6fke \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 y\u00fckseliyor, tahamm\u00fcl giderek azal\u0131yor. Ufac\u0131k tart\u0131\u015fmalar b\u00fcy\u00fck kavgalara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor, insanlar birbirine k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 davranmay\u0131 s\u0131radanla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor. Sanki herkesin i\u00e7inde biriken bir gerginlik var ve bu gerginlik, en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck tetiklemede patl\u0131yor. Oysa toplumlar b\u00f6yle birden de\u011fi\u015fmez; bu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcn mutlaka bir kayna\u011f\u0131 vard\u0131r. Bu kaynak \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00f6rmezden geldi\u011fimiz, \u00fczerinde durmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, ertelenmi\u015f sorunlar\u0131n birikimidir.<\/p>\n
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\u00c7ocuklukta ba\u015flayan bo\u015fluklar\u2026<\/p>\n
\u0130lgiyi hak eden ama g\u00f6remeyen \u00e7ocuklar\u2026<\/p>\n
Duygular\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131may\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenemeden b\u00fcy\u00fcyen gen\u00e7ler\u2026<\/p>\n
Rehberlik edilmemi\u015f hayatlar\u2026<\/p>\n
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Sevgi ve s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n bir arada sunulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 evlerde b\u00fcy\u00fcyen \u00e7ocuklar, duygular\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenlemeyi \u00f6\u011frenemez. \u0130leti\u015fim kurmay\u0131 bilmeden yeti\u015fen gen\u00e7, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde \u00f6fkeyi bir ifade bi\u00e7imi san\u0131r. Yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcp d\u00fczeltmeyen aile, \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyay\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f okumay\u0131 al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline getirmesine sebep olur. Sonra bir bakm\u0131\u015f\u0131z, kayna\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuklukta olan sorunlar b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f, sokaklara ta\u015fm\u0131\u015f, toplumsal \u00e7atlaklara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f.<\/p>\n
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Sevgili okurlar,<\/p>\n
Son y\u0131llarda \u015fiddetin artt\u0131\u011f\u0131, tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n daha kolay patlak verdi\u011fi, \u00f6zellikle gen\u00e7ler aras\u0131nda umutsuzlu\u011fun belirginle\u015fti\u011fi bir d\u00f6nemden ge\u00e7iyoruz. \u0130nsanlar birbirinin sesine tahamm\u00fcl edemez h\u00e2le geldi. Eskiden bir mahallenin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 beraber oynar, beraber b\u00fcy\u00fcrd\u00fc. Bug\u00fcn ise herkes kendi i\u00e7ine kapanm\u0131\u015f, duygular\u0131n\u0131 saklamak zorunda kalm\u0131\u015f, konu\u015fmay\u0131 unutur h\u00e2lde. Dayan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n yerini bireysel kayg\u0131lar ald\u0131; payla\u015fman\u0131n yerini k\u0131yaslama; sabr\u0131n yerini ko\u015fu\u015fturma\u2026 \u0130\u015fte b\u00fct\u00fcn bu de\u011fi\u015fim, asl\u0131nda \u201cbize ne oldu?\u201d sorusunun cevab\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturuyor.<\/p>\n
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Ekonomik y\u00fckler, i\u015fsizlik, gelecek korkusu, aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fimsizlik, e\u011fitim eksiklikleri, sosyal medyan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131 g\u00f6lgede b\u0131rakmas\u0131\u2026 Bunlar\u0131n hepsi, insanlar\u0131n nefesini daralt\u0131yor. Bu bask\u0131 da kendini \u015fiddet, \u00f6fke, patlamalar ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalarla g\u00f6steriyor. \u00d6fke, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve umutsuzlu\u011fun bir yans\u0131mas\u0131d\u0131r. Sessizce bir k\u00f6\u015fede biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar, g\u00fcn gelir yanl\u0131\u015f bir davran\u0131\u015fa, ac\u0131 bir sonuca d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
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Peki b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlarla nas\u0131l ba\u015f edece\u011fiz?<\/p>\n
Bir toplum nas\u0131l iyile\u015fir?<\/p>\n
Aileler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na nas\u0131l bir yol \u00e7izebilir?<\/p>\n
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Asl\u0131nda cevab\u0131 yine birlikte ya\u015faman\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcnde gizli. Bir toplumun gelece\u011fi, evlerin i\u00e7inde, ebeveynlerin tutumunda, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n g\u00f6zlerine verilen de\u011ferde \u015fekillenir. Aileler, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla kurduklar\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirdik\u00e7e toplum da g\u00fc\u00e7lenir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sevgi, \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygusal g\u00fcvenli\u011fini in\u015fa eder; s\u0131n\u0131rlar ise sorumlulu\u011funu. \u00c7ocu\u011fa konu\u015fmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmek kadar dinlemeyi \u00f6\u011fretmek de \u00f6nemlidir. Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygusunu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek yerine anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, gelecekte onun \u00f6fkesini kontrol etmesini sa\u011flar. S\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirilen bir \u00e7ocuk, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ele\u015ftiren; s\u00fcrekli de\u011fersiz hissedilen \u00e7ocuk, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde de\u011fersizle\u015ftiren biri olabilir.<\/p>\n
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Anne babalar\u0131n atabilece\u011fi ad\u0131mlar asl\u0131nda \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fil ama etkisi \u00e7ok derin:<\/p>\n
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Bunun yan\u0131nda e\u011fitimciler, toplum liderleri, yeti\u015fkinler ve bireyler olarak hepimize d\u00fc\u015fen g\u00f6revler var. Sokaklarda g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz her gencin bir hayat hik\u00e2yesi oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlamak, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil iyile\u015ftirici bir dil kullanmak, duymaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, yarg\u0131lamadan \u00f6nce anlamay\u0131 se\u00e7mek\u2026 Bir toplum ancak b\u00f6yle g\u00fc\u00e7lenir. Kopan ba\u011flar, yeniden ba\u011flanmay\u0131 bekler; unutulan de\u011ferler, yeniden hat\u0131rlanmay\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Biz asl\u0131nda kaybolmad\u0131k; sadece yolumuz karard\u0131, g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz kama\u015ft\u0131, i\u00e7imiz yoruldu. Ama \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczde ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z o iyilik, o dayan\u0131\u015fma, o insanl\u0131k h\u00e2l\u00e2 burada. Yeniden ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 zor de\u011fil. Kendimize d\u00f6nmemiz, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za daha g\u00fcvenli bir d\u00fcnya b\u0131rakmam\u0131z, birbirimizi yeniden duyabilmemiz yeterli.<\/p>\n
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Belki de as\u0131l sorumuz bundan sonra \u015fu olmal\u0131:<\/p>\n
Bize ne oldu? sorusundan daha \u00f6nemlisi,<\/p>\n
Bundan sonra kim olmak istiyoruz?<\/p>\n
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Ve en \u00f6nemlisi:<\/p>\n
Nas\u0131l bir toplum b\u0131rakmak istiyoruz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za?<\/p>\n
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\u0130\u015fte gelece\u011fimizin y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc belirleyecek olan da bu soruya verece\u011fimiz cevapt\u0131r.<\/p>\n
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Bazen bir \u015fehirde dola\u015f\u0131rken insan, kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inde kendini bir sessizli\u011fe \u00e7ekilmi\u015f gibi hisseder. G\u00f6z g\u00f6ze geldi\u011fi insanlar\u0131n bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda eskiden tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 o s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bulamaz, sokaklar\u0131n sesinde bir sertlik, y\u00fczlerde bir yorgunluk sezer. Sonra i\u00e7imizde bir soru belirir, \u00e7ok sade ama a\u011f\u0131r: Bize ne oldu?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":111480,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-111477","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111477","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/12"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=111477"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111477\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":111478,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111477\/revisions\/111478"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/111480"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=111477"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=111477"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=111477"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}