Silahlar\u0131n sustu\u011fu, s\u00f6z\u00fcn yeniden arand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu e\u015fikte en \u00e7ok ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan \u015fey belki de \u015fudur: Birbirimizi duymay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek.<\/p>\n
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Baz\u0131 d\u00f6nemler vard\u0131r; ya\u015fan\u0131rken anlamazs\u0131n ama seni nas\u0131l \u015fekillendirdi\u011fini y\u0131llar sonra fark edersin. Sessiz kalmalar, bast\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f \u00f6fkeler, \u00e7ocukken anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n tedirginlikler\u2026 Sonra bir bakars\u0131n; o d\u00f6nem, seni senden bile gizlice al\u0131p g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f.<\/p>\n
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Bizim toplumca ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey de tam olarak bu.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131llarca s\u00fcren \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n, ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n, korkular\u0131n sadece d\u0131\u015far\u0131da ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sand\u0131k. Oysa as\u0131l hasar i\u00e7erideydi.<\/p>\n
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Kiminin \u00f6fkesi kolay ta\u015far oldu, kimisi herkese \u015f\u00fcpheyle bakar hale geldi. Baz\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z ise hi\u00e7bir \u015fey hissetmemeyi \u00f6\u011frendi. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hissetmek, yoruyordu.<\/p>\n
Yani o \u201cb\u00fcy\u00fck meseleler\u201d dedi\u011fimiz \u015feyler, yaln\u0131zca haberlerde de\u011fil; insanlar\u0131n sinir sisteminde, ili\u015fkilerinde, \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme tarzlar\u0131nda, gece uyuma bi\u00e7imlerinde ya\u015fand\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Hi\u00e7 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131n birine \u00f6fke duymak\u2026<\/p>\n
Kendini bir yere ait hissedememek\u2026<\/p>\n
G\u00fcvende olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden bir g\u00fcn bile ge\u00e7irememek\u2026<\/p>\n
Bunlar\u0131n hepsi asl\u0131nda ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f bir toplumsal travman\u0131n g\u00fcndelik hayattaki yans\u0131malar\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Ve en \u00e7ok da \u015funu yapt\u0131 bize:<\/p>\n
\u0130yili\u011fe inanma kapasitemizi sarst\u0131.<\/p>\n
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Bir \u015feyin ger\u00e7ekten de\u011fi\u015febilece\u011fine inanamamak. Bir \u015fey iyi gidiyorsa hemen ard\u0131ndan k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck beklemek. Kapanan yaralar\u0131n asl\u0131nda \u201cge\u00e7ici\u201d oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek. S\u00fcrekli bir \u015fey olacakm\u0131\u015f gibi ya\u015famak\u2026<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015fte bu da zamanla bir savunma mekanizmas\u0131 de\u011fil, karaktere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n
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Bu Topraklarda Herkes Yaln\u0131z Ac\u0131s\u0131na Tutundu<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Sevgili okurlar,<\/p>\n Bar\u0131\u015f dedi\u011fimiz \u015fey sadece \u00e7at\u0131\u015fman\u0131n sona ermesi de\u011fil.<\/p>\n Bizim, korkusuzca \u201cart\u0131k ge\u00e7ebilir\u201d diyebilmemiz.<\/p>\n Birlikte oturabilece\u011fimize, konu\u015fabilece\u011fimize, anla\u015famasak bile sayg\u0131 duyabilece\u011fimize inanabilmemiz.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Ama kolay de\u011fil.<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu topraklarda uzun y\u0131llard\u0131r her temas\u0131n alt\u0131nda bir tehdit vard\u0131. Bu y\u00fczden \u00e7o\u011fumuz sadece konu\u015fmay\u0131 de\u011fil, dinlemeyi de unuttuk. S\u00f6z hakk\u0131 vermek bir l\u00fctufmu\u015f gibi hissettik. Kar\u015f\u0131dakinin ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 duymak, kendi hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 tehdit ediyormu\u015f gibi geldi. O y\u00fczden herkes yaln\u0131z ac\u0131s\u0131na tutundu.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u0130\u015fte \u015fimdi, tam bu noktaday\u0131z.<\/p>\n Ge\u00e7mi\u015fle vedala\u015fmak de\u011fil bu.<\/p>\n Ge\u00e7mi\u015fin \u00fczerini \u00f6rtmek hi\u00e7 de\u011fil.<\/p>\n Ama art\u0131k onun, bug\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc esir almas\u0131na izin vermemek.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Birlikte iyile\u015fmek, ayn\u0131 fikri savunmak de\u011fil.<\/p>\n Ayn\u0131 ger\u00e7e\u011fi kabul etmek zorunda da de\u011filiz.<\/p>\n Ama birbirimizin varolu\u015funa tahamm\u00fcl etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenmeden, hi\u00e7bir toplumsal bar\u0131\u015f tam olmaz.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Yani sorunun kendisi bile art\u0131k \u015fudur:<\/p>\n Birlikte ya\u015famay\u0131 m\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek istiyoruz, yoksa birbirimizi su\u00e7lamay\u0131 m\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrece\u011fiz?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Bu yol kolay de\u011fil, evet.<\/p>\n Ama imk\u00e2ns\u0131z da de\u011fil.<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ayn\u0131 dili konu\u015fmasak da, benzer ac\u0131lardan ge\u00e7tik.<\/p>\n Ayn\u0131 kederi farkl\u0131 kelimelerle anlatt\u0131k, ama hissettiklerimiz birbirine \u00e7ok yak\u0131nd\u0131.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Bug\u00fcn birbirimizi yeniden duymay\u0131 se\u00e7ersek, yar\u0131n birlikte iyile\u015fmek de m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olabilir.<\/p>\n K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir ad\u0131m bile, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir de\u011fi\u015fimin ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n Ve belki de tam da bu y\u00fczden, h\u00e2l\u00e2 en \u00f6nemli soruyu sorman\u0131n zaman\u0131:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Birlikte iyile\u015fmeye ger\u00e7ekten var m\u0131y\u0131z?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Uzun zamand\u0131r s\u00fcren suskunlu\u011fun ard\u0131ndan, ger\u00e7ekten bar\u0131\u015f\u0131n m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz bir d\u00f6nemdeyiz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-109350","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/109350","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/12"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=109350"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/109350\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":109351,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/109350\/revisions\/109351"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=109350"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=109350"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mardinhaberyolu.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=109350"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}